How to get more out of bottoming
How to get more out of bottoming
Boys are made to fucking. And that is, what we usually doing. But some of us are made lil differently. We enjoying also to be submissive, want to playing with (other man's) cock, wanna be penetrated, wanna be fucked!
This is a huge urgent rooting in our mind. So, the question is how to do it and get a maximum pleasure from it.
You never wanna bottom on a full tank. You know your body's rhythm with regard to regularity. Some bottoms prefer to douche or use an enema before sex to make sure they're cleaned out. Fleet makes a "natural" enema now that is basically water and aloe. It works well, or you can get a regular fleet, dump out the saline, and use plain room temperature water. Making sure the rectum is cleaned out could help with the problem of you feeling overly "full."
If you are already apprehensive about bottoming, your stress may be prohibiting from you to relax, and therefore comfortably accommodate a hard penis. Sometimes a few glasses of wine help to relax you. However, you want your top to be somewhat sober, because if the top is drunk, he may just try to spear you. You want a top who is considerate and takes things at your speed.
Like I said earlier, LOTS AND LOTS of foreplay. Rimming and gentle use of lubed fingers can help relax your sphincter muscles. You have 2 in the anus - an outer and inner one. A good top knows how to engage in anal foreplay. Have your partner give you head while he's fingering you or jerk you off if he's rimming you. The goal is to get you loosened up, good and wet, and wanting more. If toys are available for this, use them (but be smart.. don't start off with something too big or you'll never succeed).
We're at the point of entry. Positioning is key, and this is very dependent on you personally. I know some bottoms who like to start on all fours, some on their backs, others on top and sitting on their partner's penis. It all really depends on you. Regardless of which position you choose, GO SLOW. Take 10 minutes if you have too. Make sure you are very lubed up. Hopefully by this point your partner's lubed fingers have gotten you good and slick inside. When you partner is trying to enter you, this is where you try to relax and push out a bit as if you were going to the bathroom. This sounds gross, but this action is what opens up the sphincters. If you are unsure of how much to push or what you need to do to make it go easy, Practice with a toy and you'll get a feel for how to push and how much push you need to get it in there.
Sniffing some poppers always helps you! By getting more horny, by taking his penile, and finally by getting an orgasm.
While he's trying to get inside you, make sure you are pleasuring yourself. Keeping your hard on stimulated will help with distraction, and make what's going on in the backyard feel better. While some bottoms get pleasure just getting pounded without jerking off at the same time, many only get the prostate pleasure if they are simultaneously jerking off.
Make sure you try to cum while he is inside you. If you really want to experience the over-the-moon orgasmic pleasure bottoms talk about, you've gotta cum while your partner's dick is hitting your prostate. You don't need to be with a huge guy to get this done. The prostate is only about 2-3 inches inside you. As you approach orgasm, you may feel a warming deep in your belly and tingling sensations that start radiating outward up your back and down your legs. It can be a very powerful orgasm.
Use some more poppers and give it to your top. Poppers is great also by synchronizing orgasms. But – as a bottom don't going to wild, cos you'll pay that later!
After you cum and the pleasure waves have subsided, if your partner hasn't orgasmed, he may want to keep fucking, yet you may suddenly be aware that you are no longer comfortable. Again, some bottoms can just keep on going after they cum, but others need the top to extract himself pretty quickly after orgasm. This is because while you were in orgasmic bliss, you weren't aware that you might be getting a little raw by this point. If you feel discomfort, tell the top to pull out and you can get him off orally or however you want. In an ideal world he can cum within seconds of you and everyone is happy, but don't subject yourself to discomfort and pain just because he wants to bust a nut while inside you. He'll survive getting head.
And remember the most important - choose a top, you're really love, or at least like. And prepare him - and yourself. Talk about your expectation before he's jump your bones! Go and help each other to be a good top and a good bottom!
Basically it's very easy to be a crap top and a lot of guys are terrible. A good top is patient, goes as slow as you need, stays hard forever so there is no rush, doesn't cum after 1 minute inside you. That´s just getting past the starting line. To actually do a decent job you need to control rhythm, speed intensity, angle, depth of thrust and pacing. And that´s just part of it. Bottom boys are general sensually very sensitive. We craving for signs of love and attention. A small kisses, hugs, touch, some nice words.
And all this also applies to a bottom! Don't be a dead fish and wait for miracles! Top boys love our satisfied moves and return kisses, grabbing his body in heat, moaning and other expressions of our pleasure. Make him know, when he is good!
Boys are made to fucking. And that is, what we usually doing. But some of us are made lil differently. We enjoying also to be submissive, want to playing with (other man's) cock, wanna be penetrated, wanna be fucked!
This is a huge urgent rooting in our mind. So, the question is how to do it and get a maximum pleasure from it.
You never wanna bottom on a full tank. You know your body's rhythm with regard to regularity. Some bottoms prefer to douche or use an enema before sex to make sure they're cleaned out. Fleet makes a "natural" enema now that is basically water and aloe. It works well, or you can get a regular fleet, dump out the saline, and use plain room temperature water. Making sure the rectum is cleaned out could help with the problem of you feeling overly "full."
If you are already apprehensive about bottoming, your stress may be prohibiting from you to relax, and therefore comfortably accommodate a hard penis. Sometimes a few glasses of wine help to relax you. However, you want your top to be somewhat sober, because if the top is drunk, he may just try to spear you. You want a top who is considerate and takes things at your speed.
Like I said earlier, LOTS AND LOTS of foreplay. Rimming and gentle use of lubed fingers can help relax your sphincter muscles. You have 2 in the anus - an outer and inner one. A good top knows how to engage in anal foreplay. Have your partner give you head while he's fingering you or jerk you off if he's rimming you. The goal is to get you loosened up, good and wet, and wanting more. If toys are available for this, use them (but be smart.. don't start off with something too big or you'll never succeed).
We're at the point of entry. Positioning is key, and this is very dependent on you personally. I know some bottoms who like to start on all fours, some on their backs, others on top and sitting on their partner's penis. It all really depends on you. Regardless of which position you choose, GO SLOW. Take 10 minutes if you have too. Make sure you are very lubed up. Hopefully by this point your partner's lubed fingers have gotten you good and slick inside. When you partner is trying to enter you, this is where you try to relax and push out a bit as if you were going to the bathroom. This sounds gross, but this action is what opens up the sphincters. If you are unsure of how much to push or what you need to do to make it go easy, Practice with a toy and you'll get a feel for how to push and how much push you need to get it in there.
Sniffing some poppers always helps you! By getting more horny, by taking his penile, and finally by getting an orgasm.
While he's trying to get inside you, make sure you are pleasuring yourself. Keeping your hard on stimulated will help with distraction, and make what's going on in the backyard feel better. While some bottoms get pleasure just getting pounded without jerking off at the same time, many only get the prostate pleasure if they are simultaneously jerking off.
Make sure you try to cum while he is inside you. If you really want to experience the over-the-moon orgasmic pleasure bottoms talk about, you've gotta cum while your partner's dick is hitting your prostate. You don't need to be with a huge guy to get this done. The prostate is only about 2-3 inches inside you. As you approach orgasm, you may feel a warming deep in your belly and tingling sensations that start radiating outward up your back and down your legs. It can be a very powerful orgasm.
Use some more poppers and give it to your top. Poppers is great also by synchronizing orgasms. But – as a bottom don't going to wild, cos you'll pay that later!
After you cum and the pleasure waves have subsided, if your partner hasn't orgasmed, he may want to keep fucking, yet you may suddenly be aware that you are no longer comfortable. Again, some bottoms can just keep on going after they cum, but others need the top to extract himself pretty quickly after orgasm. This is because while you were in orgasmic bliss, you weren't aware that you might be getting a little raw by this point. If you feel discomfort, tell the top to pull out and you can get him off orally or however you want. In an ideal world he can cum within seconds of you and everyone is happy, but don't subject yourself to discomfort and pain just because he wants to bust a nut while inside you. He'll survive getting head.
And remember the most important - choose a top, you're really love, or at least like. And prepare him - and yourself. Talk about your expectation before he's jump your bones! Go and help each other to be a good top and a good bottom!
Basically it's very easy to be a crap top and a lot of guys are terrible. A good top is patient, goes as slow as you need, stays hard forever so there is no rush, doesn't cum after 1 minute inside you. That´s just getting past the starting line. To actually do a decent job you need to control rhythm, speed intensity, angle, depth of thrust and pacing. And that´s just part of it. Bottom boys are general sensually very sensitive. We craving for signs of love and attention. A small kisses, hugs, touch, some nice words.
And all this also applies to a bottom! Don't be a dead fish and wait for miracles! Top boys love our satisfied moves and return kisses, grabbing his body in heat, moaning and other expressions of our pleasure. Make him know, when he is good!
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From my own experience I can add that long kissing and tongueing sessions is the best preparation for a bottom.
It can be combined with nipple pinching and caressing and everything else you like
Give and receive
After half an hour usually my manpussy is very relaxed and open and really screaming for cock.
A full hour makes it even better!
And whoever knows how to listen to the advice is wiser ...
3 points I'd like to add : 1° Cleaning : once you naturally emptied yourself, using a small dildo in the shower will make your hole absolutely nice and neat. 2°) Foreplay : the most potent weapon against fear of aching is desire, And after half an hour foreplay, fear is gone and you'll just want it in. 3°) Poppers : Not very good for health, but yes, they're radical in making inhibitions pop out.